See, I can agree with everything you've said and still hold on to some of my sentimentality regarding the bolstering of egos. I'm caught somewhere between a nurturing heart that wants to help people along and a very short lived career teaching piano (one time, as I recall) because I thought the student ought to know more. Illogical no matter what way you look at it. The only time I was ever sent out into the hall (a very bad thing back in the day), was due to my enthusiastic offer to help a frog voiced boy practice the song for our Spring Fling. Instead of seeing through the obvious social awkwardness of that suggestion to the altruistic gesture that it was, it was viewed as being not very nice to said froggy voiced boy. So you see, criticism comes with a price, and I've chosen to not encounter it any more often than is absolutely necessary. I don't mind criticism if it's helpful. I don't take ranting very well, especially when it overlooks any positive aspects of the target. I do like discussing things like this though, so ... don't shoot me... kudos to you ;)
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Date: 10 July 2014 07:24 pm (UTC)I'm caught somewhere between a nurturing heart that wants to help people along and a very short lived career teaching piano (one time, as I recall) because I thought the student ought to know more. Illogical no matter what way you look at it.
The only time I was ever sent out into the hall (a very bad thing back in the day), was due to my enthusiastic offer to help a frog voiced boy practice the song for our Spring Fling. Instead of seeing through the obvious social awkwardness of that suggestion to the altruistic gesture that it was, it was viewed as being not very nice to said froggy voiced boy.
So you see, criticism comes with a price, and I've chosen to not encounter it any more often than is absolutely necessary.
I don't mind criticism if it's helpful. I don't take ranting very well, especially when it overlooks any positive aspects of the target.
I do like discussing things like this though, so ... don't shoot me... kudos to you ;)